OK, so not everyone can attain their perfect life, let’s get that straight right now. If you want to be an astronaut but you’ve got asthma and a terrible head for figures, it’s not going to happen.
However, everyone is able to have a life that they love and are proud of.
We all make excuses for why we’re unhappy, why we never achieve anything and, most importantly, why we don’t even try. This needs to stop.
Not all excuses are bullshit, but the vast majority of them certainly are. Quite often, deep down, we know that the excuses we’re making don’t hold any water; we just keep repeating them because they’re stuck in our brains and it has become automatic behaviour.
What follows are some of the most common excuses you make to yourself and why they’re probably a lie. The time has come to rise up and beat yourself down. Take a chance, take a punt, take a moment to start improving your life.
Don’t make an excuse, watch the ship sail away (again) and say “Oh well, I probably wouldn’t have liked it any way.” No, no, no, it’s time to jump aboard and grab the steering wheel – or whatever they call that on a ship…. the rudder(?)
Your excuses are often a thin veil covering a deep-seated fear. Call it out for what it is and have a crack at it. Below are some common excuses we all use on a daily basis and a quick glimpse into the reality behind them.
See if any of these seem familiar, and try to ask yourself if they are genuine when you use them:
“I don’t have enough time.”
Well, actually, that’s not a very good excuse. You can make time. Watch less telly, cancel something, start earlier.
“It’s too hard.”
Nothing worth doing is easy; also, hard things get easier the more you do them. So, get started.
“I’m waiting for the right inspiration.”
Aren’t we all. It may never come. Dive in. Inspiration often only comes once we’ve jumped in. Sometimes you have to get on the path before the inspiration fairy pops by for a visit.
“I don’t have enough money.”
Buy less junk food, buy less posh food, skip the pub for an evening, sell something you never use.
“I’m too tired.”
If you have kids or you’re over 35, you are always tired; that’s life. I say “I’m tired” so often it’s time for me to realise that tired is the new normal. You can beat tired though. It’s not a disease. Deal with it.
“I’ll start tomorrow, the next day, next week, next year.”
We’ve been using this excuse on ourselves since we were at nursery school. We still fall for it, even though we know it actually means “I will never do it.” Make a pact with yourself now – never say that again. If it needs doing, crack on.
“It’s not meant to be.”
What do you mean by “meant to be”? Do you mean that God or Fate or Mother Earth didn’t want you to be happy so they didn’t allow it? Now come on, let’s be serious here, we’re adults. If any of those entities did exist (which is unlikely) that would make them very mean, and they’re supposed to be nice, right?
There is no mystical journey; there is no life pattern set out in the stars. We are just insignificant animals that live on a spinning, watery stone; you can do what you fucking well like.
Come on, I don’t like to be the one to break it to you, but the tooth fairy isn’t real either. You choose your own path.
“I’m too young/old”
Using age is an excuse, pure and simple. We’ve all read about people who succeed at a young age; we’ve also heard about people who have amazing lives after they’ve retired. There are only the boundaries you set for yourself. Age is just a number. Also, as the population gets older on average, the number of people who are over 65 is rising steadily. You can’t tell me that this huge swathe of the population is useless, can you?
“I don’t have enough talent.”
That didn’t stop Scary Spice, Donald Trump or Richard Hammond from making a success of themselves, did it?
Talent isn’t neccesary to achieve your goals. And, although some people do have doses of natural talent, talent can be grown from scratch. Practice develops talent and helps you refine your skill. This excuse is the same as saying “I’m not good enough.” Basically, you might be right – perhaps you aren’t good enough now – but if you actually try repeatedly, you will be good enough eventually.
“I’m not smart enough.”
Then get smart. Some people are born naturally smart, it’s true. But, as with the point above, you need to use it or lose it. You can get smart – that’s what school, college, university, evening classes, books and documentaries are for.
“I have too much on my plate.”
Then take something off of your plate. Or buy a bigger plate. There’s always room, and there’s always something you can bump off your plate if you really want to. Ask for help – perhaps someone else can pick up some slack?
“Nobody will support me.”
Well, they probably won’t with that attitude… I jest of course. People always support others who are making an effort to better themselves and improve their lives. What kind of a friend wouldn’t help someone out who was making some positive changes?
“I don’t know how to do that.”
Buy a book. Watch YouTube. Ask someone.
“I don’t know where to start.”
Yup, taking on a big new challenge or heading in the right direction can be daunting and bewildering, it’s true. But don’t worry about how or where you are going to start, just start.
It doesn’t matter where, just get on the road and start moving. Once you’re on your way it will become a lot easier to decide on your next destination. Just get your brain in gear and GO.