As we wander through this life, we pick up chips that sit on our shoulders and demons that infest our minds. Not in a literal sense, but I’m assuming you all know what I mean.
I’m not saying we have forces from another dimension inhabiting our brains, but sometimes it can feel like that might be so.
The voices in our heads tell us we’re not good enough, they tell us not to bother. Perhaps these chips on our shoulders tell us we are hard done by, tell us that it’s not worth carrying on, tell us no one likes us.
It can feel like there’s a full on war going on in there sometimes, can’t it? Good vs. evil. Bad v.s. not so bad. It can easily feel like the evil team wins a little too often.
Some people seem to handle these voices better than others; some individuals know how to tame their disruptive inner monologue, other people let it ruin their life entirely.
Although it’s not always as easy as we might like, there are some ways to put a sock in the brain demon’s mouth. Some people find it much easier than others, but it is possible, and it has to be worth a try.
Store Away Triggers
It’s important to have some stuff in your mind that you can draw on when you feel like the dark side is getting the upper hand. Think about your dreams and what motivates you to get up in the morning.
Keep those thoughts close to the top of your mind so that you can draw on them when things start turning a little depressing.
Focus on the light and try your best to ignore the dark. Ignoring things doesn’t solve them as I’m sure your mother said, but, sometimes, it can allow you to get a firmer footing.
Remember That You Can
Keep a bunch of memories to hand that showcase a time in your life when you have nailed it. Times when you faced your fears, were terrified, and got it done any way.
The inner demons are so ready to tell you that you are crap and that you can’t do anything because you are crippled with fear. Remember that that is not always the case.
So, to prove them wrong, and that’s what you’ll need to do, you should have some examples to hand. That time you skydived, that time you went on holiday on your own, that presentation at work/school/college, that performance you nailed.
Everyone has a time that they have done something that they are proud of. Keep it close to mind so you can re-run it in your head when the demons try to tell you that you suck. Because you don’t.
Stand And Fight
Set up a mental battlefield. It feels like it is easier to run and hide from our demons every single time they rear their heads. Actually, you know what? Let’s fight them head on.
If they make a claim about your health, wealth or wellbeing – refute it. If they say you won’t do this, that or the other, then make darned sure that you do do this, that or the other.
Every step of the way, go against their bidding. No reasonable inner demon can be expected to survive a consistent stream of rejection. If he says you can’t – do it. If he says you suck – own it.
Inner demons are nothing but our own voices reflected back at us. If we keep proving them wrong over and over again, they have to subside. This won’t necessarily silence them for good, but it will give them a lot less power.
If you shout them down and do it any way, it also gives you more ammo for the next time that the demons are creeping back on top of your psyche. You can cast your mind back to the time when you ignored them, overcame them, and did OK.
Do Not Settle
Because the negative voices in our heads can be so darned loud, it’s easy to let them get the better of us. Quite often, it seems easier to simply let the voices win, to let them overpower us and to stay down.
That’s the wrong decision, as right as it might feel. Remember that the demon voices we hear are actually a part of your unconscious mind. So don’t roll over, let your inner angels – however small – take a lead, let them decide whether you can or can’t do x, y, or z.
Don’t settle for being bullied into inaction, don’t settle for being badgered into a corner. You are able to overcome yourself. You just need to knuckle down and remember how capable you have been in the past.
Even if you feel like you have failed over and over again, do not stop. Getting up after we have fallen down is the most important thing we can do each day. We need to remember we are in charge of our own mind and not let it be trampled by our own idiocy.
You are OK. You are able. We may not be the coolest, strongest, most talented people on the planet, but very few people are. It’s time to stand against ourselves and show the universe what we can do.
It’s all about small wins. Dampen the voices just once, and they are easier to dampen the next time. Each small step we take makes the next small step slightly easier. Don’t stop fighting.