No doubt as you’ve surfed your way around the waves of the internet you’ve seen loads of posts telling you how to have the best life/be successful/be constructive/make friends etc.
To be fair, most will have something to offer us. We’re all looking to extend our experience here on earth and make sure we aren’t missing out on something vital.
So, I thought I would collate a bunch of things I’ve found as I’ve wandered across cyber space that I reckon will help you and I squeeze the most into our human lives.
The list isn’t designed to be followed to the tee – none of us have that much time; it’s just intended as a list of suggestions. It’s nothing more than a selection of ideas to be followed or ignored as you see fit.
Also, before I get started, I should clear one thing up. None of the below will make you “successful” or “better” – those things are fully dependent upon whether you feel more successful or better. That’s the important thing here really: we want to improve your life, not improve how other people perceive you, as that’s not important.
Let’s crack on:
1) Get up early: you’ll get slightly more out of each day to do something constructive, and you’ll have a minor sense of achievement each morning for beating your eyelids into submission.
2) Eat well: we all know we should be doing this already, but pasties, pies and burgers are so darned tasty! Don’t beat yourself up, just make sure you get some proper food in you each day.
3) Move about a bit: I’m not saying you should join the gym or swim 20 miles a day – no thanks. Just get out and move a bit. Buy a bike and use the bus less, or walk instead. Little and often.
4) Find something you love and do it more often: most people have a passion, and if you don’t, find one. Do loads of different things until you find something that really floats your boat – then do it often. Passion is a hard thing to pin down, so make the most of it when you find it.
5) Make the most of friends and family when you can: we often don’t make enough time for friends and family. Modern life is hectic and they can get shoved to the bottom of the pile. We shouldn’t beat ourselves up about this, that’s what they’re doing to us, too. We’re all busy. But when you do meet up with anyone you care about, make the best of your time. Put your phone away, switch the TV off and actually spend time together – like you used to.
6) Give yourself some space: I know we’re all mega busy – juggling jobs, kids, cars, friends, blah, blah and blah, but this one is important. You need to have at least 5 minutes a day where you sit in silence. And no glancing at your phone either. Just sit still and be peaceful. If you can’t manage it every day, do it whenever you can. You’ll be amazed how much difference it makes.
7) Practice creativity: if, like me, you feel about as creative as a bison on sedatives, don’t worry. Everyone can squeeze a little creativity out. Do a sketch, paint something avant garde, do a little dance, write a shit poem, write a short story, tinkle on the guitar. Practicing creativity feels good. Your brain gets a chance to take a break from the real stuff for a moment and it appreciates it.
8) Remember that no one is inferior: personally, I think this point is quite a big deal. Everyone needs to remember this. A lot of self help type posts will remind people that they are inferior to no one. I fully agree. However, many people need reminding that we are all equal. Yes, no one is better than us, but that also means we aren’t better than anyone else either. If everyone remembered that we are all on a level playing field, there would be a lot less arrogance and depression in the world.
9) Slow it down once in a while: a lot of these types of lists will tell you to slow down your life and constantly take it easy; those writers clearly don’t have to get up and work every day; I, however, am living in the real world, juggling a couple of jobs and all the other crap life lobs at you. You can’t constantly slow down, but you certainly can once in a while – make it your aim.
10) Stop your grumbling: most of the time, the things we moan and complain about are nowhere near as bad as we make out. Moaning and grumbling makes us feel miserable and it also brings down the people we are with. In the long run, if you moan too much, people won’t want to be around you. So pack it in. You can speak about what’s upsetting you – of course – but constant winging is unpleasant for everyone, including yourself (you’re just used to it).
11) Change it: following on from point 10, if something is making you sad or angry, do something about it. I don’t mean turn up outside your boss’ house with some fireworks and a couple of kilograms of dog turds – no, don’t do that. I mean, if you hate your job, find a new one. If a friend is annoying you, discuss it with them; if you hate your boyfriend, dump him, if politicians on the TV are making you want to puke, join a political party instead of ranting on FB.
12) Fuck regrets: excuse my French, but this one applies to me BIG TIME. So, I’m shouting at myself. I don’t mean we should do whatever we like and damn the consequences. I mean, we need to stop punishing ourselves for things we’ve done wrong in our past. The past has gone. Get over it. As long as you have decided that you will never go down that road again, you can stop beating yourself up.
13) Be grateful: this might just be the trickiest of the bunch. Be grateful for what you have; remember there’s always someone worse off than you. Remember we have the power to change things in our life most of the time. Remember that life is a gift and we should take advantage of it.
And, most important of all – don’t beat yourself up.